The Best WINS of All Time

Want to know why? Because even the small wins add up to big wins…. so a win is a win.

This last week I started to feel like my digital shop wasn’t going anywhere and over the weekend I made some goals to hold myself accountable. I also felt like maybe I had my vision everywhere and was not organized. I started to feel like if I filled this cup over here another cup might become empty.

It is so great to have multiple ways to achieve your goals, but if you don’t hold yourself accountable how can you win?

I started this blog to go alongside my passions: photography, digital design, and a little bit of lifestyle in between. It was hard but you know what? I started. I did it. and THAT is a win. What do your wins look like?

Here are some of mine:

  1. Post daily
  2. Batch create content
  3. Do something creative

Today, I have done all of those things, but even if I did just one it would be a WIN.  If you are here because you like what I create, AWESOME (& me too— it’s not just working around here it’s mostly fun)!  If you are here for some new ideas: EVEN BETTER. & if you are here because maybe you have a small business and are wanting to take it to the next level: FABULOUS.  I’m here for you. I’m rooting for you!! & I have resources on my Etsy Page that can support you.

Make today awesome so yesterday get’s jealous!

xo,

kai

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Gift Guide for Your Self Care Queen

I am all about self-care lately and as a mom, I’m always looking for products that are not only great but also step up my “me” time!

Here are my 13 must-haves:

  1. Silk Pillowcase
  2. Jade Roller & Gua Sha
  3. Pura Smart Diffuser & Scents
  4. Amazon Kindle
  5. Fuzzy Slippers
  6. Amazon Fire Tablet
  7. Plexus Skincare
  8. Plexus Vitamins 
  9. Tea Drops
  10. Frameless Candles
  11. Shower Steamers
  12. Headphones for zen moments

For more self-care shopping check out here!

The above contains affiliate links, which means if you use my code and make a purchase, I’ll be compensated at no additional cost to you. However, I only recommend products I love!

Treat yourself a little extra and plan for 2023 with printable planners & decor on my Etsy!

A Cheat Sheet To: Healing Your Body

It has been a while since I’ve been active on my blog and to be honest, I haven’t felt like posting or writing anything, but I am back and ready to be more consistent!

Recently, I have been proactive with healing my body from the inside out and it, and I thought this would be a great start in sharing especially before the new year! Here are my top 5 must-dos for healing your body and mind:

  1. Read often
  2. Meditate or pray daily
  3. Journal your thoughts or talk to someone (even voice recording yourself to talk things through)
  4. Find a great multivitamin
  5. Start taking probiotics! I use these

For me, taking probiotics and wanting to heal my body has been a big thing for me. Most recently I’ve struggled with hormone imbalances that made my postpartum anxiety and depression linger for way too long. I’m sure a lot of us mamas can relate to feeling more than “off” from time to time. I can say with not taking hormones, therapy, exercise, vitamins, and good probiotics I don’t have those issues anymore. I’m not here to be all about me but it is important to heal your body along with your mind.

What works for you?

xo,

kai

Mom’in during a Pandemic

I wrote this over a year ago with the intent to publish it but was scared to put on paper my struggles as a new mom when I felt like the world was closing in on me– I hope you enjoy it.

Having a baby during a global pandemic sure changes a lot of things as many of you know. It changes relationships, how you thought your story might go as a mom, and who you become as a mother. I had a beautiful baby boy at the end of January 2021 and I never thought that part of my recovery physically would also be to recover my mind. My little guy spent a week in the NICU and I was desperate to feel “normal” and connected because my family could not possibly understand what it is like to be a mother in a pandemic AND have your baby not come home with you. I was the first of my major girlfriend group to get pregnant and have a baby and so they just didn’t understand how I was feeling. I really needed people in my life who understood where I was at in my journey and especially who understood the struggle of a NICU pandemic mom.

I faced not only the struggles of navigating new motherhood but came home with postpartum anxiety and depression. Bonuses I did not expect to come home with.

I kept telling myself I had all the support I needed though—I had my husband, my family, and friends. I realized over time that while these people were all great, they just didn’t get it! Being a mom that went through trauma it was so refreshing to have other women know and understand how hard pregnancy, labor, and NICU stays, and how hard being a pandemic mom truly was.

Flash forward two years and the pandemic seems like a blip in time. I am thankful for therapy, my immediate family and friends to get me through. I can say I made it! I made it through a time that was so very hard for me.

Whatever you are struggling with right now, know you are not alone. You can get through it and you might need some help along the way.

xo,

kai

Must Haves for Your Babe & You

By no means am I a pro mom… only been doing this gig for a short time! Shout out to my mom for being the best and teaching me how to be a great mom. I’m truly in awe of all mothers (but especially mine) after becoming a mom. P.S. These are also great ideas for baby shower gifts!

I have seen a lot of posts about needing inspiration on baby must haves which inspired me to come up with my own realistic list! A lot of other blogs have outdated must haves or I found the products/ needs were unrealistic. Let’s just get to it & not sugar coat it! So here are my top 10 baby items and top 5 postpartum items + the links that I couldn’t live without.

Baby Must Haves:

  1. Baby Shusher
    This thing is amazing! It is a portable sound machine plus it saves your voice, back and lips from drying out shushing so close to baby’s ear. This provides a shushing noise and makes it sound like the womb for babies to calm down.
  2. Hatch Sound Machine
    This has so many sounds and also a nightlight. When it’s too quiet baby can’t deep sleep so the white noise is perfect for baby plus you’ll sleep better! Which trust me, this a must when you have to get up every 2-3 hours not only to get better sleep but it also doubles as a light so you won’t have to turn every possible light on.
  3. Bottle warmer – self explanatory; most babies like room temperature or warm milk (my baby does)
  4. Dr browns bottles – helps with colic and from sucking too much air. I was recommended these from another mom, and honestly so didn’t like all the pieces and then discovered the hospital I was at used these. My little dude was hooked in the hospital and liked these the best! We also like these because they prevent gas and colic and in the middle of the night I’m thankful for a less fussy baby. Get the pitcher for formula too!
  5. A lounger, swing or bouncer to give your arms a much needed break
  6. Blooming Bath – this bath helps so much when your fresh newborn is tiny and bath time seems scary. This made it easier and a more comfortable bath time for baby (and me)
  7. Halo & Happiest Baby Sleepea Swaddle- the Halo was our go to with a newborn and the Happiest Baby is what we use currently for a quicker and cozier swaddle at night
  8. Soft receiving blanket– my favorite is this one from Scallywag Baby & Co because it’s so soft (it’s stretchy cotton not like the Muslim blankets), lightweight and can be used as a swaddle blanket!
  9. Diaper changing stations- save yourself and have a basket in all your places with diapers, burp cloth, wipes, etc. all in one place! I have a basket downstairs so I don’t have to go up every single time I change the baby.
  10. Bourdeaux’s Butt Paste– I swear this stuff helps a diaper rash over night!

Postpartum Must Haves:

  1. Coffee and Water!!
  2. Anything Frida Mom! My favorite item was the perneal foam, but this whole kit rocked.
  3. Nipple cream
  4. Milk collector breast shells or Haakaa
  5. Sunflower Letchin to prevent clogs

BONUS add all of these items to your baby registry here.

Above contains affiliate links, which means if you use my code and make a purchase, I’ll be compensated at no additional cost to you. However, I only recommend products I love!

Check out my Etsy for presets to edit photos of your new babe like a pro!

There are so many great products out there to help support you and your baby; do your research but most importantly trust your gut! You know what to do mama! It’s incredible what our bodies go through but also what we have built literally inside us to be great moms and protect our little ones. There is no one like you for your baby!

xo,

kai

One Simple Way To: Stand Tall

Every day we wake up with a new day, a new to start over to write our own. Each day the sun rises and so do we. We wake up to an awesome day that awaits us. Each day we are blessed with a new seed to grow into a beautiful new tree.

We can have it all just with a new mindset. A new mindset that our “tree” has new leaves fresh and crisp ready for that new day. Our trees are all different in there own ways, constructed vein by vein in each leaf, branch by branch down to the trunk to support and hold up everything. Our tree is special. It’s leaves may shed, to leave us with something bare but that’s just it— they shed for something greater. Day by day we are graced with new. New ideas, new support, new growth. We may run into trouble or doubt but one thing remains: each new leaf to make our tree is beautiful. A tree doesn’t doubt how to grow it just does. Our path and growth is planned for us and we just need to do. Just do what’s best for us in order for us to grow. To grow into something magnificent and detailed in our own unique ways.

This isn’t my typical blog post but I felt inspired by J Lo’s new movie, Second Act and the words just flowed in because we all can have that chance to have a second act. We are not always in control but we can nourish our tree to grow and guide it into something amazing.

If you’re reading this, your tree is special too. You are detailed and wonderfully made. You are developing new beautiful leaves and strong branches to add in supporting the greatest thing: you. You’re tree shouldn’t doubt its ability to be something stronger, something outstanding. It just does. So tomorrow just be. Be you. Be your own kind of beautiful and let your tree stand tall.

Xo,

Kai

A Quick Guide on New Years Goals

a letter to my future self:

2017 was a rough year to sum it up into a sentence.  With any roller coaster ride of a year you have ups and downs and lessons that were learned.  Over these 365 days these are the 23 things I have learned and the things I will carry with me into the new year.

  1.  Stop pretending to be someone you are not or someone that someone else makes you out to be.  You don’t have to impress anyone, but you.  If someone’s expectations are different, let them be different.  Be you — through and through.
  2. Keep your feet grounded.  Not literally, but hold onto the concept that the ground is a support for the times that are shakey.
  3. Breathe.  Go outside, take a walk and breathe.  Appreciate the blue sky and the air around you.
  4. Remind yourself that life is beautiful even in what seems like a disaster.
  5. Be a genuine human.
  6. Tell the people you love you love them and mean it.
  7. Do something that scares you.
  8. Push through the pain; in the end the pain will fade, you will heal and be okay.
  9. Day dream and set goals for those dreams.
  10. Hold on to hope.  You might not feel like it is there, but it is.  Trust me.
  11. Dance in the street with strangers or friends because life is short.
  12. Be the light in the darkest places.
  13. Do one thing a day that makes you happy.
  14. It’s not your responsibility to fix anyone.
  15. Try your best. Always.
  16. Remember tomorrow is always a new start and a fresh new day.
  17. Learn something new.
  18. You are alright. (In the words of my bestie, “you got this”. And P.S. you do.)
  19. Life is hard, but you are stronger than the hard times.
  20. Turn your music up and blast your speakers.  Let the music take over and be free.
  21. You are an awesome human (who cares if your weird or what other people think).
  22. Meditate daily.  Even if it is for five minutes.  Take a minute for yourself.
  23. Let it go. Whatever it is, let it go and let God.

None of that “new year, new me” stuff.  We are still the same people we might just have new scars or beauty marks in this new year, but we have a fresh start for new memories (good or bad) and those memories are what you make it. Cheers to a new year!

xo,

kai

30 Days of Blogging: Meaning of My Name

Day #2: Meaning of My Business Name


 

About 2 years ago, my mom and I were into (still are) flipping furniture– like resurfacing and making something old look new.  I originally had an idea to create a pop-up shop to sell vintage finds that we re-done.  Not that, doing that didn’t work out, I just decided to put my passions somewhere else, but I kept the name for my business I had decided on.  At the same time, a good friend had asked me to take some of her Senior pictures for college… and BAM!  Just like that, my passion bloomed into a business.

The reason I decided to name my business Modern Roses was that 1. my favorite flower is a rose and 2. my middle name is Rose.  I wanted something new and fresh that represented me ( I was also inspired by Madonna’s book: The English Roses to be honest.  If you haven’t read this children’s book, then you’re missing out.).

From that point on, Modern Roses Design and Photography has grown into something beautiful.  I have done a lot of portraits for my friends an family and design for small businesses, to bigger corporations.  Even though I am going a different route with my dreams with perusing my masters in psychology, my art will always have a special place in my heart.

If you are just dying to see some of my portraits (which I don’t blame you) head over to my Instagram.

Capture

xo,

kai

 

30 Days of Blogging: Challenge Starts Now

In order to connect and write worthy posts, I am going to do a series of 30 days of blog posts.  P.S. I got this off Pinterest so I want to thank Pinterest for my inspiration for the next 30 days. Get ready to bloom into my life.


Today is #1.  Seventeen Facts About Me

  1. I am an only child
  2. I recently graduated and am now starting graduate school to study psychology (wait, is that two? oh well)
  3. My family are my biggest fans
  4. I am a photographer
  5. I work in marketing
  6. I have a cat that stays at my parents’ house (or her castle because she thinks she’s a queen)
  7. I bought a house at 21.
  8. My life path number is 11. (If you don’t know what life path numbers are add your birthday up and Google it.  I’m sure you’ll learn something about yourself)
  9. I’ve gone through all of life’s stressors and lost more people than I would have imagined at the end of 2016 and through this year
  10. I love pizza and ice cream
  11. I am gluten free
  12. I am slightly obsessed with Gossip Girl and Greys Anatomy. I have watched both series more times than I’d like to admit
  13. My favorite bible verse is Romans 12:12
  14. I have a thing for numbers (if you couldn’t tell by fact #11)
  15. I am passionate about giving back and helping veterans
  16. I bake cupcakes
  17. I started this blog to have an outlet and display my creative work

Boom. Done.  Fin.

xo,

kai